A mother blogger asks her three-year-old son to dress him for a week. The result is not entirely bad but in some of the looks chosen by the child there are some mistakes such as mixing different shoes or putting sandals when it is cold and it is raining. At first you can think ‘it’s small, nothing happens’, but it really shouldn’t be.
“It is important to educate minors as if they were children, you must observe their nature and as parents, one of the most important things to do when it is between the two or three years until they start school, is to get to educate through the small daily routines: eating, hygiene and dressing, among others that there may be” For this reason, for the psychologist, “this mother should have corrected her son and explained to her what she really should be like.”
No to early stimulation
At a time when many parents dress their children as small adults, the psychology professional considers it a mistake. “We are at a time when we are looking to advance the stages of children, at three years they already do a thousand things: languages, activities… and all we can do with this is make them adults and what we find ourselves is that when they reach adolescence, for example, they no longer feel like studying. Now there is much more school failure than before.” This also goes into the field of fashion.
For Julia Pascal this obsession with stimulating children and skipping stages makes children commonly dressed in shirts and other garments more intended for adults, when really “little ones hate this kind of garment”, since it is proven that one of the first things children look for in clothes is “comfort and pleasant textures”. No longer a particular age in which it is said that it is appropriate for a child to dress alone, although if I had to say one in which children start to forge their own style it would be between the nine and twelve years, what is now known as transcendence, which has been made much ahead of themselves because of this new educational paradigm in which the child is an adult in construction and the sooner that maturity is better reached,” he adds. Until then, their style of dress will change as the person acquires their identity.
“Parents are role models of the child, also in the physical aspect and when dressing”
Throughout childhood it is very important that parents spend hours in education, which also includes the way of dressing. “Parents should filter what children wear, just like they should with the TV shows they watch,” Says Pascal. One way to do this is to give the child a choice of three options previously selected by adults. “That’s how we get our son feeling that he’s making a selection of what he wants to wear, but it’s really a parent-controlled situation,” she says.
A bespoke drawer
“It is recommended that two- or three-year-old have a drawer available to them with their clothes, the two or three options of the day the child might choose. This helps you express your individuality and build your identity. It has been observed that we then create children more responsible for their own bodies and care, safer and more responsible children of both their own clothes and their personal image,” explains Julia Pascal. He adds: “Parents are role models of the child, therefore they are also models in the physical aspect and when it comes to dressing. This is not to say that the child always copies the mother but they obviously watch you.”
“Dressing the little ones as adults is a shame, because you don’t let the child be a child”
The negative influence of ‘low cost’
It is clear that the impact on the fashion industry of ‘low cost’ brands also affects children’s clothing. Many brands offer looks for children to be dressed like their parents, something that makes small adults look on the streets. “It is no longer a simple one-off grace in which you put a bow tie on your son, now it is something that has been normalized. Many say that nothing happens, but it does happen, because you have to respect the nature of the child, his innocence, his thirst for beauty, of mystery…”, argues the representative of the Col•leg Officer of Psychology of Catalonia. “We have to let children be children and protect them from that fashion that wants to shorten childhood,” he says.
In reference to this, the psychologist sees very successful the announcement of a beauty brand in which a message was sent to mothers: ‘Talk to your beauty daughter before the beauty industry talks to her.’ Julia Pascal appoints Catherine Gruyere, a Barcelona-based Canadian, researcher and publicity of education issues: “Catherine and I share that ‘education is giving beauty opportunity’, and it’s important to know that if parents look after their image, and that doesn’t mean going fashionable, chances are their children will too.”